“Kitty” (a moniker given by her husband) a.k.a Gena is a mother of three, a wife, friend, and don’t forget a Doula. Needless to say she is a very busy lady. Between the diaper changes, the endless laundry from three girls and did I mention she has three websites to keep up and the four blogs she writes, all while chasing a 19- month old around the house, Phew! It makes me tired just typing about all of this! WAIT THERE’S STILL MORE!…
Having just recently moved to Austin she is not only the President of the Texan’s for Midwifery and the V.P. of Marketing for Central Texas Doula Association she’s also on the Board of Attachment Parenting International and last but not least her main site Mommy Matters Online.com A fantastic resource for new and expectant parents.How she does it all and still has her head on at the end of the day amazes me.
“Being a Parent is the hardest job you’ll ever have” says Gena at the start of every radio show. Oh, did I forget to mention her radio show Progressive Parenting? This woman is spinning a lot of plates here.
I sat down with Gena after our session and tried to figure out how she does it all. And why she wanted to do an INDULGENCE SESSION.
SBP– Ok, I know I’m her sister, but in our daily comings and goings we don’t really get to talk about things like this. So first things first, how do you do it?
GK– I don’t, not in the way you think. In reality I’m a good enough mom. I don’t mean it in a bad way, I just mean I know I can never be Perfect,(heck I would settle for semi-consistent), and that’s okay with me. I know if I consciously stride for perfection I would just go nuts because there’s no such thing, it would be like chasing the white rabbitt, you’re never gonna catch him and if you did you would be sorely disappointed. I want to be a good mom and that’s enough, that way I can recognize when I make a mistake, but instead of beating myself when I do, I forgive myself and try and learn from it. The end. Mostly I am scrambling, but I give myself permission to because I have a lot going on.
SBP– Why did you want to do this Indulgence Session with me?
GK-Lately I have been feeling run down and noticed I’d been in my uniform too often, Ava (7rs old) says I ALWAYS wear the same pants and a dress shirt. A friend of mine has a nickname for me, she calls me MOM JEANS. She says it as a way to rib me into dressing nice more often. But she’s back home and I fell into my khaki jeans t-shirt rut. And instead of going to get my hair or nails done I wanted something that would make me feel beautiful and cool, an outlet like a vacation. Something more lasting than a trip to the salon. I got what I wanted too! It was fun and SO outside my normal day. I am generally not found dressed up in a cocktail dress with my crazy shoes on in the middle of the day romping around care free in Austin, Texas. I have to admit it was fun getting cat calls, stares and double takes. I would never want to be Oprah famous but it was fun to feel like a celebrity for an afternoon. I enjoyed laughing with you, like we did when we were kids. I loved it! I’m addicted. I liked pretending and ‘acting’, you had so many great ideas I would never have thought of!
SBP– What would you tell other moms who want to do a session like this?
GK– You should do it! You deserve to feel this way, it’s fun and you get to see a side of yourself that you rarely do. But something changes. You have a picture from your session, maybe one where you look strong or confident (or whatever you prefer). That picture is in your house, you see it everyday, and you kind of start to inspire yourself. Now, I don’t mean this in a conceited way, I mean it’s like a dream board of THINGS I want, the pictures from this shoot are like the me I would like to be or feel like more often. Does that make sense? Just do it, I’m glad I did because the shoes I’m wearing are two of my best friends. They are like my ruby slippers, and when I wear them I feel like someone else, it’s like a vacation from the everyday. They are so bold and fearless and fun, but they are about to retire so now I will have them forever!
SBP– So when are we going to do this again?